My Thoughts

True friends are like diamonds precious but rare. False friends are like fallen leaves found every where. Arthor Unknown

Friendship is a funny thing. It can make you happy, it can make you sad, it can make you laugh, and it can make you cry. Through the years you will find those folks that you thought were true friends (diamonds I call them) turn out to be duds (fallen leaves). I’ve had the fortune and misfortune to run into both.

The diamond:
I have a friend who I’ve been friends with since we were nine (we met in the second grade) we are now 34 and counting. I considered her to be a diamond and true friend but now I am wondering if I was wrong. Well for some reason unbeknownst to me she is not speaking to me. I ,for the life of me, can’t figure out what the hell I did or didn’t do, said or didn’t say to warrant this behavior. I thought that our friendship was the kind of friendship that could sustain the normal idiosyncrasies of the average everyday friendship. I thought that we were the kind of friends that could tell each other any and everything especially if one of us did something that other one didn’t like. I guess I was wrong. See, the thing is, I thought of this girl like family. She was my sister. I could tell her anything and I did. Recently I noticed that in the last year or so we started to grow apart. I figured it was because she was married and going back to school so she was busy. I was also working and taking care of my mom who had been sick. So I told her that I understood that our lives were going in different directions but I hope that I our friendship could sustain this. I told her I would put forth an effort to keep the friendship alive if not on the level we were but on some level. She agreed to this too. But this pack didn’t come to fruition. We would make plans to meet for lunch or dinner or just to hang out and she would call and cancel a day before we are supposed to meet. We would plan outings with other friends of ours and she would be the one who would cancel. So started to build other friendships. ( Not that she was my only friend) . One day earlier this year we had a heart to heart talk about her “flakiness” when it came to us meeting and hanging. She said she knew she had been flaking out but she was just busy with school and stuff. She promised to do better and I did the same. ( I would sometimes double book).

So now here we are six months down the line with us not having spoken except for the birthday phone call I got from her. (I totally forgot hers which is a month and some days before mine I spoke about hers in my Forget Me Not post.) Other than some phone message left by me and never returned by her, we haven’t spoken. I recently sent her an email basically reaching out. I asked what was it that sent to friendship down this endless path to oblivion… Well she responded. She’s not sure where to start but we need to sit down and talk honestly. I stared at the response…shocked.Maybe I did do something and if that was the case then it is very callous of me to forget it or maybe its not anything I did but it is her life that is spinning out of control and she just hasn’t had a moment to fill me in. Well, whatever the reason I plan to actively pursue this answer. I hope that it turns out to be a simple misunderstanding and we can get back on the friendship track. End of part one.