My Thoughts

Illusion-
NOUN:
1.
a. An erroneous perception of reality.
b. An erroneous concept or belief.
2. The condition of being deceived by a false perception or belief.
3. Something, such as a fantastic plan or desire, that causes an erroneous belief or perception.

Reality-
NOUN:
pl. re·al·i·ties
1. The quality or state of being actual or true.
2. One, such as a person, an entity, or an event, that is actual

The Illusion:
That because I am educated with a good job, my own house and self sufficient that I wouldn’t have a hard time finding a mate.

The Reality:
That because I am educated with good job, my own house and self sufficient I don’t have a mate and am having a hard time finding one.

I often hear that women don’t know what they want in a man but I have come to believe that men don’t know either. We often that men want a woman who is smart, hard working, educated and independent, but what they really want is a woman who is needy or who they can’t sleep with on the first date or a woman who puts up with whatever crap they throw out there. They don’t really want a woman who knows what she wants out of life and is actually working towards having those things. They want a woman that they have be Mr. Superman and in the words of ESG “Captain Save a Hoe” with. How many times have you seen a guy with good credentials (i.e. nice job, car, education) go for the chick who posses none of the same qualities (high school drop out, 2 or more kids)? It just doesn’t add up.

Dating the in this day and time is a struggle. If I meet one more married guy who hasn’t stopped dating or the guy who is living with some chick (there is always some sob story reason why they are “shaking”), I’m going scream. Am I expecting too much to want a single, educated, guy with a good job and a car who is not married, living with someone or at home with his parents? Is it too much to ask for a guy to bring what I am bringing to the table a stable, educated, good job, own her own home woman.