My Thoughts

Illusion-(1) the action of deceiving. (2) perception of something objectively existing in such a way as to cause misinterpretation of its actual nature.

Reality- (1) a real event, entity, or state of affairs. (2)the totality of real things and events.

My Illusion:

That because I am educated with a good job, my own house and self sufficient that I wouldn’t have a hard time finding a mate.

My Reality:

That because I am educated with good job, my own house and self sufficient I don’t have a mate and am having a hard time finding one.

I often hear that women don’t know what they want in a man but I have come to believe that men don’t know either. How often do we hear that men want a woman who is smart, hard working, educated and independent, but what they really want is a woman who is needy or who they can sleep with on the first date or a woman who puts up with whatever crap they throw out there. They don’t really want a woman who knows what she wants out of life and is actually working towards having those things. They want a woman that they can be Mr. Superman or in the words of ESG “Captain Save a Hoe” with. How many times have you seen a guy with good credentials (i.e. nice job, car, education) go for the chick who posses none of the same qualities (high school drop out, 2 or more kids)? It just doesn’t add up.

Dating the in this day and time is a struggle. If I meet one more married guy who hasn’t stopped dating or the guy who is living with some chick (there is always some sob story reason why they are “shaking”), I’m going to scream. Am I expecting too much to want a single, educated, guy with a good job and a car who is not married, living with someone or at home with his parents? Is it too much to ask for a guy to bring what I am bringing to the table a stable, educated, good job, own her own home woman. Maybe I am.